Against fake compliments and exaggeration

we always feel proud for approbation made on us regarding the things we've done well and the prize we deserve for that.
                         ''it is better to be underrated by people than to be overrated by them''

John Hersey is always right for saying this.If he really has shown this audacity after being a victim, to the one who made him say so,i must say i cant help but respect him more  for this courage which everyone needs to be able to show by the approach of correct time .never does anyone of us can feel proud for the exaggerated praise we get for having done the things we do not really have contribution to.being felt overrated is the thing we can neither accept,nor can be thankful for the person for being hyperbolic on our undone deeds. i agree Hersey's assertion neither in the meaning that i cant stand the over evaluated and buttered praise on my deeds, nor in the meaning that i never do praise others for their jobs done correctly and impressively but in the meaning that things seem much better only when they are seen in  the place where they are because i believe on someone saying that ''its far better to make a person feel bad with a truth than to comfort her/him with deliberate lies''.

                            However, overrating someone doesn't merely deal with fluttering.if you say it a blandish,then u may get wrong there too for fluttering is not necessarily coaxing into something every time you use that to someone.overrating may be a joke,a reason to mock at a person after searching (you may or maynot find) a flaw inside her/him or more commonly a way you can use to make one feel momentarily proud on what s/he is not .
                                     But,have you even cared about the abhorrent humiliation a person can get into due to your high opinion onto her/him? definitely not. simply to exemplify,when an overrated student comes to know that the praise s/he is taking credit of since so long is nothing more than her/his exaggerated potentiality for her/him being a daughter/son to a principal or some other higher post holders of that school,then we can imagine the state of mind and the loathsome awareness one gets struck by all of the sudden as if being unknown about own being, s/he is certain to have at that time.
                                                                                         Everyone loves to be complimented about the things that worth their credibility and not anyone i know dislikes the self-satisfying feeling when somebody praises something about  her/him in a decorous way. but when someone gives us a strong approbation and we even are not in the situation to heartily accept it,then nothing can get more awkward than that . someone is saying wow at our disgusting hair and distracting dress up, giving a bravo for our unsatisfying work or just clapping for our dumb-founded attempt to give a public speech can be nothing than a abasement for us who are ourselves not satiated enough for what we have done!
                                                                                     So in being praised for what good we have actually done and what we get for something we haven't even attempted to do, its obvious that the appraisal we get after giving our best in something gives us more happiness and pride than that we get from exaggerated words thrown cheaply at us just to  make us happy in short run. do praise, but make it just. not much, and not even less that one deserves it.

16th july, 2012 monday

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